So I turned 30 yesterday, and because society and my body are screaming at me that it’s supposed to mean something, naturally I have some thoughts. I thought I’d be sad to leave my twenties behind, but the truth is, I wouldn’t go back. Not even if you paid me in booze and chocolate. And here’s why:
I know shit now.
The best way to learn life lessons is through actually living and making mistakes. So, now that I’ve got a little more life under my belt, here are some things I’ve learned, mostly from doing the exact opposite:
- You don’t need everyone to like you. You’re still going to be disappointed when they don’t, but it’s okay because…
- You don’t need to like them, either. There are 7 billion people in this world, and while you should always try to respect, understand, empathize…you don’t have to be everyone’s BFF. It’s okay to have a preference as to who you’d like to spend your time with.
- You are not in charge of making everyone around you happy. That is their job. You cannot do it for them.
- Friendships don’t always last. And it’s not your fault. People grow, change, move, or move on. Just because the two of you might not keep in touch or have a lot in common anymore doesn’t mean you don’t care.
- Following your dreams is going to be hard. And not everyone in your life will know how to support you, or even want to. You might have to place your own priorities over theirs. You might have to disappoint a friend who doesn’t understand why you’d rather work at something no one pays you for than go out shopping or to lunch or whatever. Your whole family might think you’re crazy. But you have to do it anyway, because no one else will do it for you. And maybe one day they’ll get to see what all that hard work was for.